Sex Addiction—The Only Way to Freedom Revealed at Last!


Today, July 5, 2015, ABC News opened their nightly telecast with the breaking news that a comedy icon had admitted under oath in 2005 that he drugged women for the purpose of raping them. We forgive this comedy legend for his sins, and we pray that he will be touched with the spirit of repentance, that he will come to know the real Jesus, whose Word and power can set him free.


Sexual addictions and abuse are in the news these days because of the sexual scandal involving this famous comedian. While God doesn’t want us to expose sin, when we see that sin is being covered up, we can learn important lessons. One of those lessons, which will see a little later, will be a Bible verse that is the real key to conquering sexual addictions.


When I inquired about the truth of these many allegations from many women, many of them who were in major unforgiveness and bitterness, God reminded me of a situation quite similar to this. It involves sexual scandals in the religious arena, some of which I am personally familiar with, having known some of these leaders myself.


We thank God that one of the most famous of the TV evangelists who have fallen sexually is now restored, and we consider him to have no past in Jesus. God has confirmed, however, that his former wife died of cancer because she had not forgiven her unfaithful husband, even though he did repent.


On a national TV expose of the latest scandal of a comedy icon, which is no joke, ladies were voicing their complaints. They told stories of being drugged and raped by this comedy legend. Their voices and manner revealed that they were full of unforgiveness and wanted this man to suffer as he made them suffer.


This is the common attitude of unbelievers, and sadly, many believers. If a believer asks God for healing, and he or she is in unforgiveness, He won’t. In my case, He healed me in His mercy until I finally understood forgiveness twelve years after coming within several hours of dying of Legionnaire’s disease in 1986.


The Power Released When We Forgive


At that time, in 1998, God healed me of two incurable diseases that had resulted from the near-death experience in 1986. I finally understood healing and forgiveness, and God healed me completely. (You can read the full story in Why Doesn’t God Heal Me?, a book God inspired me to write in 2004. Simply click on this link:



Humanly speaking, women who are abused sexually have every right to their unforgiveness and can easily justify it. However, if they are believers, they only have the privilege of laying down the pain to Jesus, asking their Father in heaven for the grace to forgive, and choosing to do so.


A woman may live with the pain of rape and sexual abuse for some time, but if she stays in unforgiveness, the pain will never go away.


Sexual sin has the same penalty as any other sin, which is death. However, sexual sin is different any other in its far-reaching consequences. Not only do we sin against our own bodies (1 Cor. 7:18), we also form soul ties with our partner. We form soul ties with any woman or girl after whom we lust.


How can the grace revolution claim that the law of God is done away, when Jesus expands the law against adultery to even the act of looking at a woman in lust (Mat. 5:28)?


Sin can begin quite small, and then grow quite large as a little leaven can cause a whole lump of dough to rise (I Cor. 5:6). A man with a lustful eye who plays a bit with pornography can later become a rapist who drugs his victims.


God called Job a blameless man. He kept himself from lusting after women (Job 31:1). He explained how sexual sin could become so serious that it affects your own marriage and even causes financial disaster (Job 31:9-12). Take it from Solomon who experienced it: lust is never satisfied (Prov. 27:20).


Overcoming the Power of Sexual Addiction


Addictive chemicals are released in sexual satisfaction, and they are harder to get rid of than even drug addiction. A sex addict is always looking for a higher high. Solomon tried everything, I mean everything, and he ended up with a thousand partners.


The main lesson of any sexual scandal, whether it is by a famous comedian or a TV evangelist, is represented by a verse I memorized when I went to college run by a TV evangelist/cult leader. Even with a power trip of a controlling cult leader where no woman dares accuse for fear of expulsion, Numbers 32:23 applies: “ … be sure your sin will find you out.”


When I met a certain leading evangelist in Protestant evangelical and charismatic circles, I notice some troubling things in this man, including pride and jealousy. Shortly after he was interviewed on the national news, having fallen in a homosexual scandal.


As they say, “what goes around comes around.” Your sin will grow until it becomes evident to all.


Your fame and the best lying lawyers in the world will not prevent what Solomon says will happen: “He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion” (Prov. 28:13; 10:9).


All hidden sin will one day be uncovered, and probably sooner than later. And when it comes to sexual sin, the consequences are far-reaching, and you will see great pain in your life and in the many lives you touch (Prov. 6:32-33).


A friend I had in a religious college disappeared one day from the gardening crew on which we worked together. He had discovered that the number-two man in the organization, highly revered by all students and members of this cult, had repeatedly raped his fiancée on another campus of this cult college. He was stalking her to try to find her in a wilderness state when his father denounced him as being in the bonds of Satan.


It was a sad case of like father, like son. The father’s sins were better hidden and were known by only a few after his death. Both of them died as unrepentant heads of a cult. No woman dared come forward to denounce them.


Lessons from Sexual Scandals


Many are coming forward in this latest sexual scandal in the news. It may be true that sometimes there’s only smoke, like this cult leader suggested in his defense, but most of the time there’s fire where there’s so much smoke.


While not excusing their unforgiveness, it took courage for these women who were drugged and raped to come forward and stand against a revered legend. You can cover a sin for so long, but eventually it will find you out. God will always forgive you; however, you have broken laws that exact a certain penalty in your life and life of others.


In the eyes of some of your victims who have chosen not to forgive, your reputation will never be restored (Prov. 6:32-35).


The grace revolution claims we don’t have to confess sin anymore, but yes, God says we must (1 John 1:9-10). They also deny the truth of Galatians 6:7, that we reap what we sow.


But if you want to truly be free from a sexual addiction, is confession to God enough?


The surprising answer is no. In most cases, even though God forgives you, you’ll struggle continually with that weakness because you continue to cover it up. Are you ready to hear the only real solution to sexual addiction? Get ready to see how simple the answer is.


The Surefire Solution to Sexual Addiction


James 5:16 is the only surefire solution to sexual addiction. If you want forgiveness, yes, ask God, for He is always ready to forgive and give you a new day, never choosing to remember your sin even if it’s repetitive.


God forgives; if you want healing, however, you must practice James 5:16:

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed…”


This doesn’t mean you broadcast your weakness to everyone, but that you find a trusted friend, in the case of a man, another man who knows the sexual urges of a man, and confess to him every time you use your sexual organ for any other purposes than urination.


The experience may be humbling and embarrassing, but it’s effective. It’s the only way you can be sure to see healing, apart from a miracle of God. God often wants us to learn by doing our part. It’s a method that has been tried and proven. If you really want freedom, you have the solution here. We pray you will avail yourself of this solution, calling on God’s grace. That grace is the empowerment of Jesus in you, not to do away with the law and abolish adultery, but to give you the power to overcome.


God bless you with complete and glorious freedom. You can finally look the world in the eye with no shame. Your marriage, even your future marriage, will be abundantly blessed, and you will enjoy the glorious freedom expressed in Jesus’ words, “… and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free” (John 8:32. NASB). If you practice this, you will never regret it. This works. You can know it like I know it. You will know a truth from God’s Word that will set you free forever.